my first stitch fix box!

“I’ve been wanting to try that.” Every time the personal styling service Stitch Fix comes up, I hear that comment. Until recently, it has been my own response. It seems every woman I know is itching to have a professional inject some life into their closet. (Not to mention avoiding shopping malls and getting a fun treat in the mail!)

After giving it a try, I am impressed with the ease and thoroughness of process, the quality of the items, and the presentation of the box. I won’t go in to the details of how it works, because their website does a great job of explaining it. They seem to have thought of everything, considering not only your style preferences but also your daily lifestyle and current wardrobe needs. You can even link to your fashion-themed Pinterest board to give your stylist a good idea of how you like to dress! I could tell my comments and pins were really considered. The only drawback is waiting for your first box. You get to pick your ship date, but for some reason the first available opening was four weeks away when I signed up.

So, without further ado, here is my first round of personal styling with Stitch Fix:

When I opened the box I immediately looked for the necklace my stylist, Jessica, had mentioned in her note…no, that’s not true. I went right for the invoice, first. Frugality is in my core, and I knew that this investment would mean stretching outside my normal supersale buying habits in order to get quality clothing that I actually like (for the style and not just the price). I was pleased to see that if I purchased every item in the box it would only set me back $200 (after the keep-all discount). Not bad. You can indicate budget preferences on your profile, but—as I understand it—the stylists are choosing from higher-end clothing brands.

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Included with the clothing items are perforated inspiration cards that show examples of each piece styled two different ways. This is a huge bonus for me. Not only has someone with fashion sense hand-picked clothing for me, but they’ve also shown me how to wear it! Yes! I tried to match the looks as closely as I could to get the best feel for if I liked the items.

In my “Fix” were two tops, two bottoms, and a piece of jewelry. The necklace didn’t have a card with photos, but Jessica mentioned in her note that she thought it could add interest to any outfit. At first it seemed a little dainty and unremarkable, but as soon as I put it on, I realized it is the necklace I never knew I always wanted. There are so many times that I can’t decide if I want to wear a neckline-skimming necklace or a long pendant—and this is both! I put it on with the t-shirt I was already wearing, and loved it immediately.

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tee from Shop Good

The two tops are a similar style—both sleeveless and flowy—which might’ve been disappointing if I hadn’t asked for clothing that would be cool in the oppressive summer heat. The shirts are different enough in the cut that I don’t think they’ll be redundant in my closet if I keep them both.

First up is a silky shirt in a pretty red and grey print. There are some nice details that are difficult to see in the photos, like gathering at the shoulders and the tuxedo collar.

stitch fix_abstract print blouse cardThe casual look pairs the blouse with wide-leg drawstring pants and gladiator sandals, while the dressier style incorporates a white skirt and statement necklace. My take:

Yes, those are the same shoes and purse from my first style post three years ago. This is why I need Stitch Fix! I really like both outfits, here, even though I had to substitute pinstriped seersucker shorts for the skirt in the second look. As we’ve established, my wardrobe has its limitations. :)  Ironically, that linen skirt I got rid of would’ve done nicely. Always listen to your mother!

Next is a gauzy blouse in a gorgeous jade color. The angled hem, front pleat, and pockets really upgrade this from your average solid-color shirt.

stitch fix_natasha blouse cardThe casual look puts the blouse with cuffed straight-leg jeans and some chunky jewelry. The dressed-up look used the shirt to top a pale pencil skirt and delicate accessories. My take:

Don’t mind the awkward photo on the left. That is not a filter, something went wrong with the white balance and I couldn’t fix it in the editor. Also, I guess that facial expression is my “blue steel” look. Or, the timer on the camera ran out too fast. ;) And as long as I’m apologizing for my unprofessional photos, several of these are tilted a bit because my Joby GorillaPod kept slipping. Oh well, you get the idea.

So I like both of these looks, as well, but the blouse is just a smidge too big. Enough that my bra shows through the armhole, and bending over to help a toddler all day would mean flashing some cleavage. If I keep it, I would probably have to always have a cami underneath.

On to dressing the bottom half! At first I thought these dark skinny jeans were black, but upon closer inspection, they are actually a deep blue. I was skeptical that they would fit perfectly, because jeans are so tricky. Imagine my surprise when this pair felt like a cozy second skin! They have just enough stretch and are actually the perfect length for my short legs! I rarely find pants that I don’t need to hem.

stitch fix_skinny jeans cardThe casual look was classic stripes and denim with flats, and the dressier option matched the jeans with a lacy scalloped sleeveless top and heels. Here is my take:

Both of those shirts came from my favorite local boutique, The Pocket Shop. And for those of you from the OK/TX area, that purse is from Harold’s! That is how long things stay in my possession! (I still carry it, it looks great!) So what can you say about classic skinny jeans? They are good quality, a good fit, a reasonable price, but I don’t know if I really need them. I do remember indicating on my style profile that I would be interested in staple items, though, and Jessica delivered. Both of the bottoms she picked are very versatile.

The last piece in my first Fix is a comfy black skirt in a thick & smooth rayon. The fabric has a good weight to it, and is so soft. And scoring bonus points right out of the box—pockets!

stitch fix_ponte skirt cardOne look combines a ruched shirt and long striped cardigan with a scarf and booties, and the other layers the skirt with a long-sleeve tunic and chic jewelry. My take:

Neither outfit on the inspiration card has a shirt intended to be tucked in to this skirt, but that is the only way it looks good to me. It may just be that I hate everything about the second outfit I put together. (Except my Titu‘s bracelet.) That cardi went straight into the consignment pile. I could’ve improved the whole look with some color in the shoes and necklace, as shown on the card. Note to self: buy lilac flats! I love purple as an alternative “neutral.” But back to the skirt—I did like how the gathering gave me a boost in the caboose. I went fairly flat back there when I started breastfeeding. ;) Here’s a rear-view.

stitch fix_ponte skirt casual back

The skirt is a little pricier than I would usually like to spend for an item like this, but I can also see myself wearing it all summer with fitted tanks and all winter with colorful tights.

So that’s my first Stitch Fix Box! I would love your opinion on these items and which ones you think I should keep. I’ll send any unwanted items back tomorrow. If you decide to give the service a try, use my referral link and I’ll get a credit toward my next box! :)

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put yourself in HER shoes

In the past few years, I’ve written a bit about my evolving relationship with running. Running is a lot like writing for me: an outlet for energy and emotion, a challenging pursuit that inspires me to improve, an activity that stimulates creativity, and a fun diversion, and something I crave when I go too long without it. Also, “runner” and “writer” are two titles that I have been reluctant to claim, even though I avidly engage in and enjoy both things. But recognizing that I am, indeed, both a writer and runner, has been a significant part of my personal growth and my story.

Girls on the Run® is helping girls find this important perspective while in still in elementary school, inspiring 3rd-5th graders to be joyful, healthy, and confident. The positive youth development program creatively integrates running into a fun, experience-based curriculum that emphasizes competence, strength of character, compassion, and meaningful contribution to community. Girls discover their potential to be remarkable and learn that they can take charge of their own lives, develop the ability to think critically, and use their voice confidently.

Girls on the Run of Southern Oklahoma served 70 girls in Carter and Love Country last season, and is continuing to add teams each semester. The team meetings and lessons show pre-adolescent girls how to embrace their individual strengths, develop healthy relationships, successfully navigate life experiences, and positively connect with and shape the world.

Earlier this week, I wrote an article for their blog about what running means to me and how it has affected my life. Sharing my running story with pre-teen girls in my community made me realize what a powerful tool this simple sport can be to motivate, educate, inspire, and empower. I have experienced personally the effect on my physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being, and know that this influence could be even more beneficial for a young girl.

Right now the local chapter is participating in the “put yourself in HER shoes” campaign to generate support for the GOTR team activities and supplies. Your contribution could provide a program tee-shirt or 5k race entry for a participant, meeting snacks or finisher medals for a team, or scholarships for underprivileged girls. All of these things fuel a program that is guiding girls in developing skills that will serve them well for a lifetime.

Teach her she can fill any shoe she chooses.

Girls on the Run® of Southern Oklahoma is a 501(c)3

lessons learned from surviving four mother’s days without my mom

mother's day 2014For those of us who find mother’s day a little tricky—there are plenty of circumstances that complicate this fête—it’s natural to prepare for the fuss and bustle with a few coping mechanisms at the ready. In the past four years, I’ve employed a few tactics, with limited success.

I’ve tried avoiding all social media and sappy commercials. Blocking out the parade of sentimental mom tributes helps, but sticking your head in the sand isn’t the healthiest strategy.

I’ve tried focusing on my own motherhood to a sweet little one. That brings me joy, but it doesn’t satisfy the longing to honor my mom with a heartfelt gesture.

I’ve tried celebrating all the mothers in my life that I admire and appreciate. While I’m honestly thrilled to salute them, and am truly grateful for their influence on my life, I still feel the unfinished itchiness of needing to include one more person.

What I’ve learned is that these methods will never entirely soothe the mother’s day blues for me, because my unease isn’t due to the emphasis on moms making me miss mine more. That is not possible. What I feel on this day is more of a fidgety restlessness that comes with unexpressed sentiments.

On the day when everyone is professing that no, MY mom is the best!—I have things I want to say, and I want to say it to her (lovely) face! ;) Nothing was left unsaid before my mom died (our relationship was not reserved), but becoming a mother has heightened my awe of her and increased my gratitude for everything she did for me. I have a new-found respect and wonder, and I want to gush at her.

So I’ve decided I’ve been doing it wrong. Mother’s Day doesn’t have to be an exercise in divert, distract, deflect. Yes, I will continue to direct my attention toward cherishing being a mommy and esteeming the wonderful mothers around me. (And I’ll probably still give a wide berth to my online feeds.) But I’ll also deliberately spill my admiration of her. To my husband. To my family. To my friends, to God, or anyone else who will listen. And to her, even if I can never deliver the note.

This approach may not be helpful to those who dread Mother’s Day because they have a strained or absent relationship with their mom, or a yearning for a child unborn or lost. But I pray we can all find healthy ways to face the hubub, because mothers certainly deserve more than one day a year to be revered.

And this lucky mom feels very honored, loved, appreciated, and encouraged by my amazing husband, son, and family. It’s been a wonderful, near-perfect day.

Friday nights in OKC are never dull

original image via travelok.com

original image via travelok.com

I love my city. Oklahoma City, that is. I think fifteen years living and working and playing in the metro area earns us the right to claim it as our own, even though we reside a hundred miles away, now.

Our small town is great—really great. I love our church, our friends, our neighborhood, and being close to grandpa. But while there are certainly interesting and worthwhile cultural and business developments happening here, we miss being a part of the exciting community growth that is happening in the heart of the capital.

Oklahoma City has so much going for it, and a lot to be proud of. You don’t have to look hard to find the myriad of impressive, entertaining, beautiful, fascinating, unique attractions and organizations, so I won’t recount all of them here.

But the thing that has me missing my city right now—other than the electric NBA playoff atmosphere (get it, Thunder fans?! ;)) and a handful of shopping errands that are now out of reach—is the wonderful collaboration of several midtown districts to create fun and free street festivals every Friday of the month.

Each event is a stand-alone production, but the good neighbors have created magic by coordinating and cross-promoting rather than competing. There has been widespread restoration in once-neglected nooks of the city, and these districts are among those transforming their neighborhood into something special.

While searching for the details of each event, I was surprised that no single site had complete information including all four. Which seems impossible, since there are plenty of news outlets and blogs enthusiastic about OKC goings-on. But if I couldn’t easily find it, then it might take some extra browsing for you, too. So, for my own reference and yours, here is the scheduled monthly rotation of OKC street festivals:

First Friday: Paseo Gallery Walk , 6-10pm year-round (NW 28th & Walker Ave to NW 30th & Dewey Ave)

The arts district presents this monthly showcase of the new work of studio owners or guest artists. More than 60 artists are represented in 17 galleries along the curve of Paseo Street.

Second Friday: LIVE on the Plaza, 7-11pm year-round (along 16th St. between Penn & Classen Blvd)

There’s a block party every month in the Plaza District, featuring live music, featured artists, special events, and local shopping.

Third Friday: Premier on Film Row, 6-9pm year-round (along W Sheridan between Dewey & Shartel)

The businesses on Historic Film Row invite families to enjoy an evening featuring film screenings, live music, art exhibitions, kid’s activities, and good eats.

Fourth Friday: H&8th Night Market, 7-11pm May-Sept (along Hudson Ave between NW 7th & NW 8th St)

This family- and pet-friendly food market is built around a lineup of more than thirty of the city’s top gourmet food trucks (all in one block!) plus fresh Oklahoma craft beer.

The first Night Market of the season is this Friday (April 25th), and if we weren’t attending a fun benefit event right around the corner from our house, I might consider extending my planned day-trip to The City so I could include a visit to H&8th. If you’re looking for something to do, or just a delicious solution for dinner, you should check it out!

*I created an interactive google map that includes all four locations for those unfamiliar with the area.


View OKC Friday Street Festivals in a larger map

[Holy Week] Easter Sunday: Resurrection

Today we finally arrive at the reason for telling this story. Christ the Lord is Risen today! Hallelujah!

Each day of Holy Week 2014, I have been walking through last week of Jesus’ earthly ministry by reviewing and reflecting on a series of podcasts published at The Rabbit Room featuring contributor Russ Ramsey. These messages examine the validity of Jesus’ claim that no one would take His life from Him, but that He’d lay it down of His own accord, and take it up again on the third day.

All week I have journaled my thoughts here in anticipation of today’s Easter celebration. Today’s message, “Resurrection,” celebrates the empty tomb and everything it means. (Matthew 28:1-10)

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Easter is the central event upon which Christianity stands or falls. As Ramsey notes, “Easter isn’t just one of many important dates on the Christian calendar. Without Easter, there is no Christianity. Everything Christians profess is meaningless if Christ isn’t raised.” The entire Old Testament foreshadows the Savior’s arrival, and even when we celebrate His birth, it is because He was sent to die for the forgiveness of our sins.

He is risen, and everything about it is just as He said it would be–it was His plan of redemption from the beginning of time. As we’ve noted all week, He resolutely and deliberately offered up His life at every turn (no one took it from Him), shunning any opportunities to abandon the plan and save Himself. And it is complete; our debt was paid.

Today’s teaching has many thoughtful insights into the text, per usual. Ramsey’s commentary calls attention to often-overlooked details, like the fact that the angel rolled the stone away (with an earthquake!), but not to let Jesus out of the tomb–He was already gone. It was only to show the two women visiting the grave that it was empty. But the most amazing part is not that He defeated death, it’s that He shares His victory with us! We have life because He lives.

This is the restoration that all humans long for. Ramsey recounts the time his dog died when he was a boy, and how he felt instinctively that death was not right and wished with everything in him that the tragedy could be undone. That boy began to learn about the law of irreversibility that governs this world–one that most of us know all too well.

When we lost mom, it was not my first encounter with death, but it was the most traumatic blow I had suffered. I was ambushed by an onslaught of emotions, but what hit me most squarely was the finality of it. This was a something that couldn’t be fixed or taken back–no matter how desperate I was to just cancel it out, erase the mistake, put everything back where it was.

Ramsey poses the question: What if death feels so wrong because it is so wrong? Death is an intruder–we are made for a world where death does not prevail. But because Jesus conquered the grave, reversing the irreversible, all of our grief has a remedy. He has overcome the sin that inflicts so much pain and suffering on earth.

“If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.”  ~ C.S. Lewis

My yearning for the day when God will make all things new is an indispensable part of life as a follower of Christ. But I can live with hope because I know that He has won. There is not one part of my life that is not affected by the fact that He is alive. I pray I can remember this every day, and not just on Resurrection Sunday. The empty tomb is not just a happy ending to this story; it is the beginning.


*if you would like to listen to the last two messages, you can find the entire series on the Oak Hills Presbyterian Church’s website.

*original image at bp.blogspot.com